Leaving Societal Norms Behind

Communication Insecurities

Communication Insecurities

After deciding to join a few different dating apps, and working thoroughly on my profiles…

I realized that I am not good at starting conversations, like at all. Ha! Apparently all this time spent with my children, and talking to others about my children, and spending time with mostly family and other moms has left me in an awkward incapable position of being unable to communicate properly.

How do you start a conversation with someone online that you’ve never met before without sounding creepy or sex-driven or boring or just plain weird?
For the life of me I cannot think of anything that is worth while to say to people.

Am I over thinking it? Probably. Am I nervous? Extremely. Why? I have no clue. But for some reason all I can come up with is “Hey” with the hopes that the other woman will respond in some amazingly intelligent and intriguing way that will spark a deep and meaningful conversation. Am I expecting too much?

I managed to add a “I’m not very good at this, but I’d love to get to know you.” However, get to know them how exactly? What questions do I ask? What really matters to me? How do I connect?

No offense to any guys out there reading this, but…guys are so easy. I feel so out of practice at interacting with women.
With a guy you just drop a very subtle hint, or what they assume is a hint, and they pounce. No effort necessary. But with women…
How do you start things with women? How do women make friends?
I’ve mainly had male friends throughout my life, with the exception of those women who clung to me (no effort needed there either). So I literally have NO clue how to do this. I feel so intimidated. Am I good enough?

I feel like I need to be something amazing. Something unique. Women have standards. Don’t they?


Wish me luck!

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I am a pansexual, demisexual, greysexual, homoromantic, non-binary, transmasculine, genderfluid, solo-polyamorous relationship anarchist; as well as a plant-based Wiccan mama. I'm also neurodivergent, and overall identify as Queer. I love writing, photography, dancing, travel, hiking, cooking, gaming, planning, and motherhood.

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