Communication is one of the absolute TOP priorities when it comes to polyamory. The only thing above communication would be consent. Without communication – open communication – your polyamorous relationship(s) have no bearings. Communication is key. Communication is the center of the polyamorous universe.
If you are having problems, of any kind, in your relationship(s), most likely there is some lack of communication in one area or another. Whenever something goes wrong your first instinct should be “We need to communicate.” Communication is the only way to solve anything.
Stop running in circles, try communicating!
The only way for you to get on the same page as your partner(s) is by communicating with them. Point blank period. You MUST communicate. If you’re needing help figuring out ways to approach situations, or how to go about dealing with something, try reading one of our articles on Communication.
We also have a Polyamorous Living FB group that compliments any learning stage quite nicely. Find community and get the answers you’re looking for by joining our group: Polyamorous Living. We even have a Mentorship Program setup (within the FB group) for those who need a little extra individual support.
“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.”― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
“Much unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment and things left unsaid.”― Fyodor Dostoevsky
“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”― Henry Winkler
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”― George Bernard Shaw
“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.”― Fred Rogers
“It’s okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn’t give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don’t like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable.”― Ashly Lorenzana
“Many times in life I’ve regretted the things I’ve said without thinking. But I’ve never regretted the things I said nearly as much as the words I left unspoken.”― Lisa Kleypas, Sugar Daddy
“Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else … Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it.”― Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
“A wonderful fact to reflect upon, that every human creature is constituted to be that profound secret and mystery to every other.”― Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities