Leaving Societal Norms Behind



Who are you attracted to? (What’s your orientation?)

Is it a romantic attraction? A sexual attraction? An emotional attraction? An intellectual attraction?

There are an endless variety of attraction forms and combinations. Everyone is a little bit different. Love and attraction are on a spectrum – they are fluid. People fall in different places, and they may slightly (or drastically) change over their lifetime.

So what about you? How are you feeling today? Heterosexual? Homosexual? Bisexual? Pansexual? Asexual? Something else? But wait…those are all based on your sexual attraction. Some people are sexually attracted to people of one gender, or another, or a third, or all, or even none. But what about those attractions that don’t fit into the sexual category? Yes, those ones count too.

Over the years people have discovered a wide diversity within the human race. Each individual feels slightly differently about each other, and they want and need different things too. Those romantic connections, and emotional connections, and even intellectual connections, or any other kind, are all valid forms of attraction (whether or not they also involved sex).

Checkout our articles on orientation, or more broadly our articles on Identity. You’ll find some pretty interesting stuff about different kinds of genders, as well as orientations (sexual, romantic, or otherwise), and many other cool things too. Click here to check it out!

“I am a rare species, not a stereotype.” 

― Ivan Coyote

“If you are an LGBT+ person and you come out, you have to go through your knight’s quest to create ground for yourself, to create a space for yourself, to stand there and say, ‘I exist. I have no reason to feel guilt or shame. I am proud to exist, and while I’m not perfect, I deserve to exist in society just like anyone else.’

This became my first big fight.

While I consider myself to be fantastically boring, I realized that if I took on my own sexual identity and came out and just told people about it and tried to have a chat with them—tried to be offhand and casual about it—and tried to build our place in society and humanity, then that would be a good mission. This is where I exist in society. I am just this guy. I am transgender, and I exist. But that is just my sexuality. More important than that is that I perform comedy, I perform drama, I run marathons, and I’m an activist in politics. These are the things I do. How you self-identify with your sexuality matters not one wit. What you do in life—what you do to add to the human existence—that is what matters. That is the beautiful thing.”

― Eddie Izzard, Believe Me: A Memoir of Love, Death, and Jazz Chickens

“Either you are homophobic or you are a human – you cannot be both.” 

“Being homosexual is no more abnormal than being lefthanded.” 

― Abhijit Naskar, Either Civilized or Phobic: A Treatise on Homosexuality

“In a world where positive expressions of sexual longing connect us we will all be free to choose those sexual practices which affirm and nurture our growth. Those practices may range from choosing promiscuity or celibacy, from embracing one specific sexual identity and preference or choosing a roaming uncharted desire that is kindled only by interaction and engagement with specific individuals with whom we feel the spark of erotic recognition no matter their sex, race, class, or even their sexual preference. Radical feminist dialogues about sexuality must surface so that the movement towards sexual freedom can begin again.”

― Bell Hooks

“I reserve the right to love many different people at once, and to change my prince often.”

― Anaïs Nin

“ Free love? As if love is anything but free! Man has bought brains, but all the millions in the world have failed to buy love. Man has subdued bodies, but all the power on earth has been unable to subdue love. Man has conquered whole nations, but all his armies could not conquer love. Man has chained and fettered the spirit, but he has been utterly helpless before love. High on a throne, with all the splendor and pomp his gold can command, man is yet poor and desolate, if love passes him by. And if it stays, the poorest hovel is radiant with warmth, with life and color. Thus love has the magic power to make of a beggar a king. Yes, love is free; it can dwell in no other atmosphere. In freedom it gives itself unreservedly, abundantly, completely. All the laws on the statutes, all the courts in the universe, cannot tear it from the soil, once love has taken root.”

― Emma Goldman, Marriage and Love

“The point for me is to create relationships based on deeper and more real notions of trust. So that love becomes defined not by sexual exclusivity, but by actual respect, concern, commitment to act with kind intentions, accountability for our actions, and a desire for mutual growth.”

― Dean Spade

“A world where it is safe to love is a world where it is safe to live” 

― Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio